THAT BELFAST GIRL reveals all...
- Jade Eaton
- Jan 21, 2019
- 3 min read
Twenty-Six year old Belfast Based Blogger; Gemma, bears all on how to be confident in yourself.
This summer was a whirlwind for me. After six years of bogging. I became a viral sensation overnight after I posted a picture in my swimsuit. For most people, this wouldn't be a major situation. But when you are a size 14, 5ft 10 and have 10,000 Facebook followers, It becomes one!
I've never really been body confident. My body has gone through a lot for its twenty six years on earth. I've been in hospital more times than I care to recall. I've been sliced open, scarred and my veins in my arms are all almost collapsed because of the amount of needles I've had in them. But it's my body. It's carried me this far. I can't hate it but I'm not Victoria's Secret model. The pressure I've felt all my life to be thin has been enormous. Not even thin, but tiny. I'm tall - at 5ft 10, I was never going to be petite. It took me 25 years to come to peace with my body and all it's been through. My heart some days feels so confident and full of joy at my body being a vessel that has ensured. Some days it makes me sad. Some days I want to wear no clothe like the swimsuit pie! And some days I want to be completely covered up.
My attitude about myself changed this year after a dinner with two girls from work. It was one of the girl's birthdays and we spent some time going around the table giving each others 3 words to describe each other. Often these were words that people would never describe themselves as. One of my words was sexy. Never in my life did I ever think I was sexy but the girls told me that because I carry myself a certain way, it's one of the main attributes that they notice about me.
My Top Five Tops on How to Find Confidence
1. Focus on your assets
So I'm never going to have a washboard stomach like Rita Ora but I've a great pair of legs. Focus on what you DO have rather than what you don't have.
2. Surround yourself with Joy
My perception of myself started to change when I fell into the company of positive people. People who compliment you and remind you of your greatness are the best people in life.
3. Self Care is everything
Take time to chill and recharge. I found my confidence was constantly up and down when I was exhausted and not taking time to look after myself. Have a bath. Do a face mask and read a book.
4. Make Peace
Making peace with yourself is a hard thing to do. It takes time and patience. Realising that you were made to be unique and exactly the way you are is a wonderful thing. Refer back to point one to help with this point!
5. Walk in Joy
One of the biggest realisations of my confidence journey; was that i was spending so much time and energy comparing myself to others, feeling sad about my body and generally hating myself. I wish I spent less of that time worrying and more time enjoying my life.
From Gemma
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